It's been quite the morning, between the rain and the IEP meeting out at teach and picking up Julien early. I'm still kind of processing it all and feeling a fair amount of trepidation but also excitement about Victor and school.

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thursdays_child: (Owl: Frazzled)
( Jun. 9th, 2009 08:12 am)
First thing this morning. BA BOOM! CRASH! House shaking. Bright light flashing.

HUGE thunderstorm over the region came literally, RIGHT OVER THE HOUSE.


The house was shaking so hard.

Poor Vic was petrified to run out to the bus but he did do it, skipping down the drive in his little raincoat.

Julien hasn't budged on the other hand because he wouldn't freaking go to sleep last night.

We had a home visitor here for Vic and he just got ... hyper.

He finally crashed sometime around 3 I think.

Needless to say, I'm a little crispy around the edges, especially in the wake of yesterday's tummy problems.

Time to go to work though.

It's all toast and stuff for me today.
thursdays_child: (Places: Philadelphia)
( May. 17th, 2009 09:38 pm)
Back to the civilization of a steady internet connection!

I had a wonderful trip, a wonderful time.

Big thanks to Laura (for hosting and for contributing to the bar-hopping extravaganza) and to Amy (for letting me mooch and generally being great), to Mom and Dad for paying for my ticket and giving me some spendin' cash to make it that much more fun and Gram for being just plain inspirational.

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thursdays_child: (Vic: Smile)
( May. 8th, 2009 10:17 am)
Dear Victor,

How time has flown. But I say that every time I write an entry on your birthday. Still there's something sobering about 7. It's the line to me between little kid and big kid and you really are getting to be a big kid.

You've grown so much this year, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally and through the dark curtain that can sometimes be pulled across your sunny nature by the demons that you struggle with, we can see the beautiful person that you are and just how really great you can be.

It's been a year of ups and downs, of really difficult times with very low lows but also increasing lifting up and reaching the top of hills to breathe in the air and feel the sun. You're doing so beautifully well in the TEACH program and your teachers and therapists are all impressed with your progress, even without medication.

You've gone from not being able to do any of your academic work in November due to distress, anxiety and inability to focus, to getting 100% on your spelling quizzes and dashing off homework sheets in 10 minutes.

You've gone from constant daily meltdowns to handling your emotions better and better all the time, to the point that sometimes you handle them better than even your mommy does. Your sweetness without that burden of anxiousness and anger is really starting to come through, be it from helping me carry groceries home or randomly bringing me a piece of toast yesterday when you knew I've had food poisoning and couldn't keep anything else down. Just because you thought I might be hungry.

There's still struggles to get through, but today is your birthday. Today you turn 7 and you're stepping into the big kid world in age, but really doing that on every other level too.

Happy birthday sweetheart.
May 7 be full of wonderful things for you.

Love, Mommy
thursdays_child: (Vic: Snow)
( Jan. 30th, 2009 03:41 pm)
Victor came charging up the driveway just now, jumping over ice and snow and kicking at piles of slush.

Good things )
thursdays_child: (Election 08: Hope)
( Jan. 26th, 2009 05:21 pm)
Through my dad, I got a link to Obama's Disability Agenda. Included is a four-part plan for addressing Autism Spectrum Disorders. You can read the whole Agenda here:

The fourth part is the one that made me burst into tears just now though:

Fourth, President Obama and Vice President Biden support universal screening of all infants and re-screening for all two-year-olds, the age at which some conditions, including ASD, begin to appear. These screenings will be safe and secure, and available for every American that wants them. Screening is essential so that disabilities can be identified early enough for those children and families to get the supports and services they need.

If only. If only. If only.

But if this is put into place, maybe other families won't have to go through the unknown the way we did. Vic was still caught pretty early on, but what if he'd started some of the behavioral therapies when he was 2 or 3?


That definitely gets a big cheer from me.
thursdays_child: (Boys: Brotherly Hug)
( Jan. 14th, 2009 10:12 am)

Vic at 7mumble am - "No I don't want to go to school! I need a break! I'm running out of steam! I can't take it anymore!"

(He was /up/ in plenty of time since he went to sleep by 8:30pm, but he was refusing to get dressed/get on the bus, etc.)

Julien around the same time, with a fever of 102: "I'm not sick! No, no, no! I want to go to school! I don't want to stay at home. Please, Daddy, don't go! Take me to school!"

10:14am: "Mommy. I want to go to school. Is my school open? Please can I go to school?"

Vic should be home in about 2 hours and I'm pretty sure his mood is going to be poor indeed.

thursdays_child: (Vic: Smile)
( Jan. 9th, 2009 03:26 pm)
Going back to school on Monday and Tuesday was tough for Vic but he managed it.
Doing his homework the rest of the week was also tough but he made up for it by doing his work during Homework Club and didn't lose any points for having not done it at home.

He had an unsatisfactory on Monday, a good on Tuesday and the rest of the week has been outstandings every day.

Today he brought home his spelling quiz. He got 100%.

I could cry for joy I really could. Before the holiday, he got a 0% on his first quiz.

Now just a few short weeks later, he aced the whole thing. And I thought he was only copying the words and didn't know how to sound them out and wouldn't be able to do it.

I was so, so, so wrong and this is tangible proof that yes, he can DO THIS. He can do school.

He just has to have the right environment and he is finally, FINALLY, where he needs to be.

I'm taking him over to CVS to get him a prize for that perfect score.
thursdays_child: (Misc: Dragon)
( Jan. 5th, 2009 08:37 am)
The string of off and on days off is over. The laundry is almost wrangled back into shape. Boxes that have been waiting for over a year to be unpacked have been so. The kids' gifts of warm clothing have been washed and folded and (mostly) stowed in dresser drawers or pressed into service first thing this morning.

What's normal anyway? )
thursdays_child: (Beth: Argh)
( Jan. 3rd, 2009 10:56 pm)
So far, not so good on the resolutions. Mom wasn't feeling well the other night and I've been busy around the house instead and it slipped my mind to head out before it got dark yesterday. All the more incentive to /plan/ an interesting walk though.

Mount Papermess )
thursdays_child: (Boys: Hug)
( Jan. 1st, 2009 03:52 pm)
As a special treat for today, we packed up both boys and took them to the movies. This was the first time that we'd taken Julien to a movie as well as Victor. Getting into the theater itself and then getting out again was probably the toughest part. Both kids were excited and bouncy and kept charging ahead in one direction, mindless of where we actually needed to go. It's sometimes not really a joke to say that trying to take kids somewhere is like herding cats.

Cut for some mild spoilers. )
thursdays_child: (Beth: Park)
( Dec. 31st, 2008 12:10 pm)
I'm working away here for another two hours and then the 'office' is closing early. The wind is blowing fit to beat the band and both kids are leaping around like manic little elves in the play room, still wearing their pajamas. Long story short, it's a bit of a chaotic day and I'm glad that I don't have to cook anything or plan for a party or get ready to go out.

I'm scanning receipts to load into the expense system for work, a final task for year-end and a follow-up on the big drive to get all of my timesheets and expenses in over the course of this month to support year-end accounting activity. It's not the most thrilling task in the world, but it has to get done and right now there's something almost soothing about the 'nrrrrrr' hum of the scanner as it swipes across each train stub that I put on the flatbed.

After work closes for the day, I'm planning a quick jaunt over to the CVS for celebratory ginger ale and chocolate. I should check with my parents too about whether or not they want to do anything/have us come over. Right now I'm just pretty happy with the idea of a low-key, quiet New Year's and some solid sleep time as well as a final push to get the house into shape.

It's all very prosaic today, nothing particularly exciting, but I hope that each and every one of you have a very, very happy New Year's Eve and that 2009 brings good things your way.

thursdays_child: (Boys: Brotherly Hug)
( Dec. 25th, 2008 09:14 am)

Vic's Knights
Originally uploaded by littleowl
"I love Santa, I love Santa. And I so LOVE Christmas."

"I want to open my SECOND present!"

Boy + Action Figure
Originally uploaded by littleowl.

Boy + Star Wars Action Figure == Happy Kid

Victor loves action figures and just as I was at his age, is really into Star Wars. Of course, for me that meant the original film and Empire Strikes Back and for him that means .... Clone Wars, the animated atrocity, but we'll just hand-wave around that.

His bus driver and bus aide got this for him and he was just so psyched when he opened it up. I have to go find some Christmas cards on sale tonight to pass around to the driver and to his teacher. It's the least we can do.

thursdays_child: (Vic: Goofy)
( Dec. 19th, 2008 08:32 am)
The truth about Victor, in the end, is that he is so much mine.

My boy )

Lyrics: So Much Mine, The Story )
Two weeks ago, I bought a set of metal hooks to put up in our bathroom to hold towels, since our towel bar just refuses to stay attached to the wall. It's old, it's crotchety and I don't like the way it looks anyway, so i took the whole thing down and bought these nice stainless steel hooks to put up.

I got everything ready, went to put the mollies into the wall and promptly started bending them with the hammer, so I desisted and pondered drilling bigger holes. It was time for dinner, so I put the tools away but left the bag of screws and mollies that came with the hook set on the side of the sink. (Dumb, I know).

Later, I went back to finish up the job and found that the baggie was gone. Either Julien had taken them or Victor and I couldn't find them anywhere in the bathroom. I let out a yell of frustration and sat down on the toilet and cried a little, because I didn't have any other screws that were the right size to go through the holes in the hooks. Victor came in to give me a hug and find out what was going on and I told him. We didn't find the screws that day though.

Just now, Vic comes up to me, beaming happily. "Mommy! I found the screws! They were in the duck the /whole/ time." Blinking in surprise, I looked up from my work and held my hand out and sure enough he put the bag of screws that goes with the hooks in my hand. "The duck? What duck?" We do have a duckie bath mat and some duckie towels but no ceramic duck decor or anything like that. "The duck in the bathroom! I'll show you!" Puzzled, I waited for him to come back. Shortly he turned up with an empty box of toddler wipes. There's a duck on the label.

I laughed so hard. "They were in the duck the whole time." Vic laughed too and I gave him a big hug and said 'thank you'. Those hooks will be going up /tonight/ gosh darnit.
thursdays_child: (Vic: Smile)
( Dec. 18th, 2008 03:49 pm)
I stepped out into the chilly, but not cold air, pulling on my coat to meet Victor at the steps as he came charging off the bus. "Back up a step! Back up a step!" he asked and patiently I backed up one to wait for him to come up the driveway. He told me about his day a little as he walked, then we stopped to empty the mailbox which was quite full.

As I pulled out coupon mailers and other junk, two red envelopes slipped out and I couldn't help the little grin that crossed my face. My grandmother always sends a little something by mail for us every year and there were the kids' cards today, each one with their names and the address typed on Gram's old typewriter. Gram was a secretary for twenty-five years, starting work when my grandfather divorced her when she was 60 and 'retiring' when she was 85. She still worked part-time sometimes, or went in to help out until about two years ago when she was 86.

Gram just had major surgery in October to remove an ovarian cyst and my mother took a leave of absence to take care of her. She's had some ups and downs since, though she is by and large recovered and just as chipper and feisty as ever. Still, I wasn't sure if she'd feel up to cards this year, so it's a happy thing to find those bright, holiday envelopes in the mail.

I opened Vic's for him and we sat and read the card and I told him all about who it was from. His face lit up with a smile for the nice words inside and for the green bill that meant he could go over to the store to pick out whatever he wanted.

Another chilly walk across the back yard and the parking lot and we stepped into CVS, walked down the glittering holiday aisle, stuffed full of cheap gifts, candy and seasonal decor. Vic didn't even hesitate and went straight for the remote controlled cars that he's been ogling for the last few weeks since they were put out on display. He picked out a shiny red one, of course and hugged the box to his chest, looking up at me with rosy cheeks and gleaming eyes.

A short trip around through other aisles led to a chocolate bar joining the car and I picked up some snacks and some more milk to re-plenish our dwindling supply. At the counter, Victor proudly stacked his purchases up on the counter and held his twenty out to the lady. "This is my money from my Nana!" he said loudly and beamed up at her. She talked to him about what he was buying and counted out his change carefully so he'd know how much it was. "I'm going to /save/ that," he said with a big shit-eating grin and couldn't help but laugh as I nodded. "Good idea to save up for something else." He's got a date with his piggy bank later to put that change away.

In the meantime, he's sitting on the floor with his car in his lap, still in the box until his dad gets home to help him put it together. Me, I'm enjoying chocolate with my feet up and hoping we get to drive up to see Nana so we can say thank you in person.
thursdays_child: (Dragon)
( Dec. 16th, 2008 09:19 am)
Standing out in the bluster this morning, I waited with hands in pockets with Julien beside me observing his big brother.
Saying good bye in the morning )
This entry was selected as a "Best of Holidailies" entry for Holidailies 2008. Thank you reader's panel!

It's 6:45am and the alarm is going off. Sabs is up and taking a shower and running the clothes through the dryer to warm them for the kids.

Day in the life ... )


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